As part of reassessing my priorities I discovered something that was taking alot of my time during the day but not really giving anything back to me. Something that was taking me away from exercise, that I was using instead of doing things I really enjoy and that nourishes my soul. Something that was ultimately taking my time but not giving very much back.
Facebook.
So I decided to go Facebook free for 1 week. This is nothing new – some of my friends have done it before. I was positive I could make the full week but was interested to find out why Facebook is so addictive. Why am I on there so much, why do I let it take up so much of my valuable time?
As I went through the week one thing became apparent – but here is just a few days out of my 7 days without Facebook diary for you to have a look at!
Day 1: 0900hrs – The deed is done – I am off of Facebook for a week starting now. I’ve deactivated, removed the app from my phone (I am so bad I am considering swapping to one of my not-so-smart phones for the week just to make sure), and removed Facebook from my favourites. I’ve logged off and my sister has changed my password so that cheating is nearly impossible!
1000hrs – Waiting for it to hit me. Although I did try to check Facebook while waiting for Master M’s Pre-School doors to open. This was just habit and I have to admit I was trying to avoid the P&F President so was trying to look terribly busy. Needless to say I checked my emails 5 times in 2 minutes instead!
1800hrs – Made an awesome dinner and really wanted to write a status about it. Realised that all I wanted was a pat on the back from friends who live just down the road, friends who live on the other side of Australia or the world and old school friends that I haven’t seen in over 15 years ….. How has that happened? Since when has that been important to me? Dinner was awesome – and I am proud of it – but since when do I need recognition / congratulations about that from anyone other than the people who have eaten it with me?
2100hrs – off to bed at a decent time! I actually watched TV tonight – not the surfing Facebook on my phone type of watching TV. Tonight, if you asked me, I could actually tell you what I watched – unlike every Facebook night!
Day 2 – 0700hrs – Went to check Facebook. Was more of a reflex than a desire. Sat here and wrote this instead. So far so good.
1900hrs – I have been in a training course all day today. I noticed people checking Facebook during morning tea / lunch time and must admit that I did not miss it. Then tonight I got an email saying work would like me to take on some new responsibilities. Which would be fantastic! I wanted to tell people – but had no quick easy way to do it like I would have before – through a status update.
Day 3 – 0700hrs – Woke up, had breakfast and then realised that I hadn’t missed Facebook at all!
1900hrs – Once again the only time I missed Facebook today was when I wanted to tell my friends about something exciting. Something that isn’t SMS worthy- or phone call worthy – not even really phone call worthy. But I wanted someone who would understand how excited I was to know about it and to be excited with me. Even if the other person is on the other side of the world or didn’t find out until hours afterwards. I wanted them to know!
Day 4 – 7 – passed pretty much the same.
On the 8th day – My sister emailed me the password so I could log back in……… I’ve had that email for 12 hours and still haven’t bothered to log in.
Facebook does connect people – but by connecting people it is isolating them. This week I have gotten out of the house more, had coffee with friends, I have played out doors alot more, I have played with my boys more, I have read books, I have done some exercise (which is better than the none I was doing) and I have actually sat and relaxed rather than checking statuses and worrying about other people. Although I love my Facebook friends and most of the friends I have on Facebook are genuine face to face friends the break away is great!
I know I can’t blame Facebook for not doing all these things before, but it is the ultimate distraction, time waster and procrastination tool. It does link people and it is a great social tool but the amount of time I was spending on there before was excessive. Facebook was taking over every spare moment I had in my day – and I know that I am not the only one this is happening too. However now I am taking my spare moments back!
I will go back to Facebook at some stage – but for now I am just as happy to stay away. Until my health and wellbeing become cemented in my mind and my actions as my priority number one Facebook can stay away. When it comes to getting praise from others the praise and encouragement from my family and loved ones is enough and it should always be enough. I don’t need to prove myself, my cooking skill, my work skill or my love for my family to any one else but them.
RachieRach
xox
PS For the record I logged in again not long after writing this post. Not much had changed – I might drop in again in a week. Anything important happens you can still call or email me. Im just not hanging around on Facebook. Life is too short to spend it all obsessing over status updates!