Applying the Laws of Attraction
The Law of Attraction is the belief that ‘like attracts like’ and that by focusing on positive thoughts, we can bring about positive results. By understanding and following this simple rule, you will be empowered to attract a lifelong partner. There is nothing you cannot be, do or have when you know how to activate and use this unlimited power that lies within you.
Johnny Carter’s Top 10 Tips to Using the Law of Attraction to Find and Keep Your Soul Mate this Valentine’s Day.
1. Be clear about what you want in a soulmate. All past relationships have given you clues about what you want in your ideal soulmate. The problem is many women and men focus on the negative instead of the positve. For example, by saying that you don’t want a man who “puts his work before the relationship” you are focusing on a man who puts work before love and that is the desire you are unconsciously sending out through your energy. The good news is, if you know what you DON’T want, you should then know what you DO want. Your power to attract your soulmate has to do with your ability to choose thoughts that are positive and clear, so that you can tell the universe exactly what you desire e.g. “I want a man who puts me first and loves me unconditionally.” You can tell if your affirmation is positive or negative by the way it makes you feel. If it makes you feel great, it is positive. If it makes you feel bad, it is negative. It’s that simple! If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, simply turn them around and start focusing on the positive. You will immediately feel better and you will be in alignment with love.
2. Dream, dream and dream some more. If you are ready for love, one of the best things you can do is get lost in day dreaming about your perfect soulmate. As you imagine your ideal love, the universe receives these images as indicators of what to create in your life. In your imagination, you can create and improve on your desired relationship until it meets your highest ideal. Once you have that ideal image in your mind, replay it over and over until one day soon you will find yourself actually living it. The power of your imagination really is unstoppable and can transform your love life.
3. Love yourself unconditionally. You can’t expect someone else to fall in love with you if you are not in love with yourself. When we judge or criticise ourselves, we send out an energy that repels others. Self-criticism is a negative energy that will repel potential soulmates. Besides, self-love is attractive. Make a list of ten characteristics you love about yourself and put this list where you can see it every day. It doesn’t really matter what is on the list as long as it easily generates good feelings that you have toward yourself. The more you focus on what you love about yourself, the more self-love you will experience. Others will fall in love with you too, simply because it feels great to be around people who love themselves.
4. Don’t be a jealous type. It’s natural to feel jealous when we see someone experiencing something we desire and don’t have, but jealousy will actually keep love from coming to you. Jealousy is a negative emotion and will repel what you desire. Instead of being jealous, celebrate the love you see and tell the universe to bring you some of that!
5. Giving up is not an option. The number one reason the Law of Attraction doesn’t appear to work is that people give up before their wish is granted. It’s like ordering a delicious meal and walking out of the restaurant before your order arrives. The order is on its way, but if you are no longer in alignment with it, you will miss out. When it comes to love, people get disappointed when their dates don’t meet their expectations and they don’t see evidence that true love is coming. Out of disappointment or fear of being disappointed, they give up — never knowing what they missed. The key to the Law of Attraction is that once you are clear you desire something specific, you must commit to it for as long as it takes to manifest in your life.
6. Don’t succumb to doubt. One of the biggest obstacles in manifesting what we desire is doubt. We want something, but we doubt that it’s possible. It is actually the doubt that keeps it from coming. Knowing is a positve energy and opens the door for attraction. Doubt is a negative energy and closes that same door. When you are in alignment with attracting your perfect soulmate, there is a sense of knowing he is on his way.
7. Live the life you love. Don’t wait for love to find you in order to start living. You will attract what you are: if you are a couch potato, you will attract a coach potato. If you desire a soulmate who is active, goes swimming and likes to read, you better start jogging by the beach and getting to bookshops. Don’t wait for him to arrive in order to live the life you love and want to be living. Start living your life right now and you will become super attractive so that special person will be able to spot you in a crowd — because you shine.
8. Be the future you. There is a current ‘single you’ and a future partnered or married you. One of the best ways to use the Law of Attraction to attract your perfect guy is to become the person who is already in the relationship. This is how it works: think of yourself now and think of yourself in your perfect relationship. How are you different? Who do you become once you are in the relationship? Maybe your answer is, “I become relaxed, confident, loving and kind.” Your answer is your clue to who you must become.
9. Choose only supportive beliefs. Examine your beliefs about love and clean up any beliefs that don’t support attracting, having and keeping your perfect relationship, for instance, “I’m not attractive enough” … “I don’t make enough money” … “All the good ones are taken”. The universe has a way of making your beliefs true, so if a belief doesn’t support what you really want, it is time to drop it and develop beliefs that do.
10. Allow the universe to do its magic. Your job is not the how. Don’t get caught up on how it’s going to happen as this can actually impede the Law of Attraction. If you are trying to control the how, you are likely getting in the way and making it more difficult than it has to be. Instead, let go of any ideas about how it has to happen and allow the universe to do its magic.
This doesn’t mean you sit home and do nothing. The difference is that you await inspired action. Inspired action is that sudden feeling you should go the coffee shop even if you are not thirsty or you should get petrol on the other side of the street. The Law of Attraction communicates to you through your intuition so make sure you are listening and following those gut feelings. Most of all, be open to all possibilities — you never know how the universe will deliver.
Johnny Carter, Founder of Lifestyle Advantage, an intuitive business and life coaching consultancy based on the ‘Law of Attraction’ : www.johnnycarter.com.au
