Cyberbullying and its risks for young social media users
Today, social media is incredibly good at both pulling us in and pushing us away. It pulls is in with its promise of instant connectedness with the outside world, and the way it makes us feel ‘with’ others even when we are alone at home on the couch. But it’s not just bringing people together. When used to harm, social media pushes us away to the point of social exclusion. It damages relationships. It belittles our sense of self. I’m talking about cyberbullying.
Cyberbullying is the use of technology to bully a person or group with the intent to hurt them socially, psychologically or even physically.[1] It is by no means a minor issue. Just last week, a Northern Territory teenager took her own life to escape cyber bullies.[2] This is an awful tragedy, and an extreme case of social media gone wrong. I’m hoping these words will empower you, as parents, to keep an eye out for warning signs.
What can I do to help my child?
There is no need to ban phones entirely and restrict wifi access in the name of protecting your child. Complete insulation is impossible. Plus, kids need to learn to be tech-savvy, as technology isn’t going away any time soon. This includes the ability to identify and appropriately deal with minor issues in relationships online, and to ask for help if/when things get out of hand online.
Have an open dialogue about technology in your home. Try not to make it interrogative in nature. If you are open about your own concerns with social media use, and issues you have faced online, your child will feel more comfortable voicing theirs too. Teenagers in particular are less likely to respond to lengthy questions about what’s happening on Snapchat, but will appreciate autonomy, trust, and the knowledge that you are there to help.
What should I watch out for?
Any of the following are warning signs:
- A sudden change in mood, especially after use of a device
- Preoccupation with checking phone/laptop/tablet
- A sudden change in concern with image, and the way it is being portrayed online
- An increase in the usage of devices and time spent discussing content of social media
Ultimately, use your judgement. You know your child better than anyone, and you’ll know when they aren’t themselves. Cyberbullying is intended to hurt, so bear in mind that a child being bullied online is likely to be feeling negative about themselves. A caring perspective and a friendly ear will go a lot further than exhibiting frustration or anger at the situation your child is in.
Author information:
Written by Sarah Carman. Director of Sponge Education | one-on-one tutoring in Sydney
Sponge Education is a tuition initiative aimed at improving the high school experience for NSW students, both academically and mentally. Sponge is a tailored tuition service for students in K-12.
[1] https://www.esafety.gov.au/esafety-information/esafety-issues/cyberbullying
[2] http://www.abc.net.au/news/2018-01-10/dolly-everett-nt-suicide-cyber-bullying-campaign-launched/9317056
