How To Reignite Intimacy After Giving Birth

Generally speaking, birth and parenthood can impact the kind of intimacy you have with your partner. While both of you think that having a baby can bring you closer to each other, it can also become a stressful situation that may tend to challenge even your intimacy, maturity, and tenderness. From role changes to lifestyle adjustments and financial difficulties, these things can impact your relationship with your partner after giving birth. 

If you think your relationship is on the rocks after having a baby, here’s how you can reignite intimacy with your partner. 

1. Recognise The Barriers To Intimacy

Before anything else, it’s important to walk through all the barriers standing between you and a good married life. However, you shouldn’t be surprised if you don’t feel as intimate as ever after the birth of your little one. To strengthen your relationship after a pregnancy, be sure to recognise the following barriers:

• Exhaustion: It’s sometimes difficult to feel as intimate as you’ve ever been if both of you are exhausted most of the time. 
• Hormones: Typically, the decrease in your postpartum hormone levels during the first few weeks after childbirth may result in reduced intimacy and sexual desire. 
• Jealousy: Your intense intimacy with your baby can make your partner jealous of the time you spend with your baby. 
• Divided attention: With your baby, you may tend to focus all the energy and emotions which may result in feeling drained of having intimacy towards your partner. 
• Pain: Intercourse after a few months of childbirth can be painful, which may diminish your intimacy with your partner 

2. Tackle The Barriers Through Communication

If you want to reignite the intimacy between you and your partner after giving birth, it’s important not to leave them unspoken. This means you should talk to your partner about the barriers openly and look for possible solutions. If the problem standing in your way is exhaustion, jealousy, and divided attention, you can come up with a strategy wherein both of you can do your responsibilities to the baby without feeling left out, abandoned, or resentful. 

If the issue is pain when having intercourse, you may consider using different positions until you find one that’s more comfortable for you and your partner. Also, you may want to check out some sex tips for women online to help you with your sex life. Later on, renew your intimacy with your partner. 

3. Have Some Time Alone

If you’re a mother who feels exhausted with all the things that need to be done after childbirth, then it’s time to revisit your sensuality. Sometimes, feeling too exhausted due to loss of enjoyment and sexual pleasure can cause intimacy issues. 

As such, it can also be a good idea to cultivate some time alone to bring back your sensuality, including self-love. More often than not, you can’t be intimate with your partner if there’s a disconnection from yourself and the things that make you happy and satisfied. So, whether you want to get a massage or take a candlelit bath, do something on your own to rejuvenate and restore your intimacy with your partner. 

4. Schedule Intimacy Time 

Having a baby can be exhausting. You and your partner will be busy with feeding, diaper changes, and consoling. You lose time to be a couple. Before you know it, both of you are no longer intimate with each other.

Hence, if you want to become intimate again with your partner after childbirth, then scheduling intimate time can be an excellent idea. 

For example, you can have this intimacy time when you unplug from social media and pay attention to each other. Even if it doesn’t involve sex, you can regain the intimacy you once had by just being together and having grown-up conversations over a cup of coffee, a bottle of wine, or beer. This intimate time can also mean kissing deeply and touching tenderly to remind both of you of what you miss about each other. 

No matter what activities you both do, the time you spend together can go a long way in bringing back the intimacy or closeness you have before giving birth.

The Bottom Line

By following the tips mentioned above, you’ll be able to redefine your relationship with your partner and bring back the intimacy you once had before childbirth. But no matter what strategy you’re going to use for your relationship, be sure to honour yourself and your relationship and reconnect with your partner. That way, you’ll understand the importance of intimacy in keeping a happy relationship and caring family.