Keeping the LOVE of your life
When you met your partner it was amazing, that warm feeling of being told you are loved, feeling special and thinking about how wonderful love is! Butterflies in your tummy before you saw each other and that smile that went from ear to ear!
I don’t think there is a woman around that hasn’t loved being swept from their feet.
However as our relationships mature things change…. we can get a little lazy and not make the same amount of effort with each other that we have in the past. It is so easy to take our partner for granted and expect them to know what we want because they should just know.
Life gets busy, we are working longer hours, we have kids to run around here there and everywhere, kids homework, a house to run, meals to cook, shopping, washing, ironing, cleaning the house…… I am exhausted listing just a few of the things we do.
No surprises that sometimes we are not feeling the love from our partner let alone any romance!
What are you going to do this Valentine’s Day to make sure it’s a special day for you and your partner?
Often I hear men say it’s just a commercial day and I am not going to get sucked into it, so rather than resent them for this, I suggest you do something that will make you happy that they will participate in. It does not have to involve spending money and getting caught up in the commercialism of the day.
When they ask you why it’s so important, simply tell them that it’s a little reminder that you both need to make an effort with each other to keep things alive and you wanted to do something special because you love them!
Here are some ideas on what you can do to spice things up a bit in your house that the kids can’t stop!
There is no need to get a babysitter and go out as these can all be done at home!
Tip 1
Post a letter or a card with an invitation to dinner and tell him the day, time and place he needs to be. If it is at home this makes it just as cute and he can see you are making an effort with him.
If you have young kids that go to bed early, get them to bed and then have a late dinner together.
Cook a special dinner, make your partners favourite meal and make a dessert with a heart message of love. Dessert can be as simple as a white plate with berries and cream shaped in a love heart, quick and easy! Create an atmosphere, play some music, light a candle, set the table nicely.
Make an effort to do your hair and dress up a little, If your husband is used to seeing you with your hair up all the time, wear it down. If you are always in pants put on a dress.
Tip 2
If your husband buys his lunch put a nice little message in his wallet saying you love him and can’t wait to see him tonight and you have a little surprise for him when he gets home. Do something he loves even if you don’t enjoy it.
If your husband takes his lunch to work make a nice little lunch with a message for him to read and a little treat to spoil him, a love heart chocolate is enough.
Tip 3
Don’t take this the wrong way, but men do like sex and we all know we don’t do that so much anymore because we are exhausted! Spice things up and make this night special! Get out of your comfort zone and have some fun, make it a night to remember.
Author: Deb Smith – Bio
I am a Dating and Relationship Expert and help couples to communicate more effectively which opens doors to loving and fulfilling relationships. Having been married divorced and re married, I know what life is like on both sides and I know how frustrating it can be when things are not working and you feel like your partner never listens! Relationships take love, respect and some work and if you are willing to do those 3 things as well as get some professional guidance then you can live happily ever after. I am passionate that if 2 people want to make a relationship work it can get back on track in no time!
