How Well Do You Know Your Children: Understanding Children's Behaviour

How well do you know your children? Really know them? Children are simply smaller versions of adults. They have their own way of thinking, doing things, behaving and acting.

A very typical comment is “Why does he do that?”, which suggests the parent doesn’t have as strong an understanding of their child’s natural way of thinking as they might believe. Profiling your child can give you a better understanding of their Behaviour.

You can spend a lifetime telling someone to do or think something, but it will never happen if that is not how the other person naturally thinks.

We are all endowed with a set of natural talents, strengths and gifts, and inherited characteristics. And we are born with our own challenges.

We are also a product of our surroundings. A parent can tell their child to do something again and again, but the child will see their parent’s behaviour much more than hear their words. And then the child grows being influenced by opinions, values, beliefs, many of which are not their own but become so, over-riding their “natural selves”.

It is possible to map out an individual’s uniqueness through profiling, a means of establishing very clearly how each person will think and act, from a quite early age.

This is gold. To know your child … really know them … to communicate with them on a level that resonates so clearly and directly with them … will change how you discipline and support your children.

Talk to them in ways they understand, prevent expecting them to do or be like you, and you have the makings of a contented child. And a contented child leads to a contented mum and dad.

A profile is a measure of the five frequencies or energies that exist within us all, each of us possessing our own unique “mix” of them. This “mix” of frequencies that exist within each of us is the key to knowing and accepting.

The behavioural snapshots below will give you an immediate insight into your child (and you). Completing a profile will give you, of course, much greater depth, but for now let’s focus on these snapshots.

If your child is influenced mainly by Dynamo energy you will notice they are:

very creative
quite competitive
happy when acknowledged for their achievements
less buoyant when restricted from doing what they love
always trying new things.

If your child is influenced mainly by Blaze energy you will notice they are:

very “social”
keen to be with family and friends
(apparently) very disorganised, which may display as being careless
at their best when interacting with others
great storytellers through their use of colourful language.

If your child is influenced mainly by Tempo energy you will notice they are:

always wanting talk things through with others
uncomfortable if left to do things for themselves, causing frustration
“down to earth” when engaging in activities
very comfortable in drawing on previous successful events to base their current activities on.

If your child is influenced mainly by Steel energy you will notice they are:

seemingly shy and/or reserved
very analytical
keen to shy away from social interactions
very “cut and dried”, tending to pay great attention to black and white details
(apparently) pessimistic due to their meticulous nature.

Spirit energy (in the middle of the square) is in all of us. It is our “purpose”, our “why”. It is the driving force that gives us our uniqueness.

While every one of us has a combination of these energies within us, there will be one energy that stands out. It is “who we are”. When both parents and child(ren) have this awareness, and the desire to act upon it, being a parent will get much easier, much more quickly than otherwise.

Instead of asking “Why does he do that?”, the question will be a much better and useful one … because you already know why he/she does that.

Even without formally profiling your child you can work out a lot of the reasons they act as they do. Knowing more about the “what”, “how” “when”, “who” and “why” within your child will allow you to see even more clearly the amazing little person you have been gifted with.

When you accept your children’s behaviour and natural ways you will love them more … and they in turn will love you more, through trust and contentment – a win-win situation for all.

Article from: Jeff Withers is a Relationship Coach and Designer, partnering with individuals, couples and families across the globe to grow their engagement and connection from the ground up. Jeff truly know what drives us all towards that “perfect relationship”, knowing that each step forward is one step closer to greater understanding, awareness and acceptance between people in their relationships whether at home, at work, or within their “play environment”. He has immersed himself in the study of human behaviour at the “foundation level” – through Positive Psychology, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Neuro-linguistic Dance & Movement Strategy and Multiple Brain Integration – which has served to reinforce his reputation as an expert who is willing and able to work with people at all stages of life towards supporting personal life harmony. www.lovedynamics.global